There are some ways to treat your child and there are some, in which they shouldn’t be treated.
If you rear
a child in negative ways you will end up an aggressive adult who will be threat
for others or a self-martyr who will kill himself out of depression.
A child is
a responsibility for you from Creator and not just the outcome of your moment
of pleasure. I agree, giving birth to a child is difficult process, especially
now a days, but healthy upbringing is even more important than bringing them to
life.
Please, if
you as a parent have decided to bore a child then please be responsible for a
life. You might get your strength from here and there, anywhere, but your child
has no hope besides you. It is parent who should teach them about their
Creator, that means for an infant child who has yet not known his world, it is
your responsibility to teach him about everything, even his Creator, for now
you mean more to him than his Creator.
Please read
these tips carefully, maybe you can prevent making a depressed monster.
- Don’t ever fight before your kids. Don’t ever fight with your spouse before your kids. Your spouse might be just a partner for you, with whom you have just started living a life. But for your kids, you and your spouse are life, they are part of your body, you mean so much for them.
- Don’t call your child with abusive names: Your child is an individual identity and not your spitting bin. Call them as you like to be called.
- Don’t slap your child: Slapping a child means not only hitting his face, slapping a child means shattering his identity, killing his soul.
- Don’t scare your child: You may think you are playing with your child, but in fact you are destroying his sense of security. So from now Please don’t scare him when he is alone, when he is a dark room etc, or otherwise he will never trust anything and never achieve a strong courageous identity.
- Never make fun of his face: Never make fun of his face nor allow anyone to make fun of his face, or otherwise he will never like his own face and never try to face his own face, he will start hating himself.
- Never allow his elder siblings or other kids or another elder to make his fun, fun of his way of talking, fun of his way of eating, for god sake never allow anyone to victimize your kids with their ridicules fun talks.
- Never punish your kids for their studies: If you will punish your kids for their studies they will forever hate learning process, they will always seek for shortcuts in life, and they will never face their failure. Rather, make their study fun for them, pleasure for them, in the way, your child will love to learn and explore their world.
- Never punish your child in front of other: Punish your child for their wrong doings, but when you are alone with your kid and not in front of others, or otherwise they will never trust others, they will always fear the rejection.
- Never show your love to your child in abusive manner or otherwise they will never have a healthy sexual life, they always fear the loss of their chastity.
- Never impose your likes and dislikes on your child or otherwise you will have man or woman of 50s or 60s who never learned to make their own decisions, or say adults who are always confuse.
- Don’t punish them for all the wrong doings they do. Just remember one thing, you have spent 20, 30, 40 years in this world and therefore you know what is right and what is wrong, your child has born just now, they don’t know even the A B Cs of life. Don’t blame them for their ignorance, human are born and learn like this.
Just remember
one thing, God has not given you child just because you had sex with your
partner, yes, bringing a life into this world is just so easy, but making a
true human being is much more than that. Your child is not your amusement box
or boxing bag, your child is a man, is a women, an independent identity, who
needs your support to make their way to become best creation, Human.
You have no
right to destroy a life after giving them birth, because now they have no
option then to live a miserable life.
Allah has
created a soul and a body, and given you the responsibility to make a Human Being.
Don’t disappoint Allah and don’t disappoint your child.
YOUR
CHILD….
