Securing the dignity of a virgin.
If you are a father or an elder brother or a wali of a virgin girl or a
young man desires to get married, this suggestion is for you. If you
want to get your girl married, first of inquire about the prospect
brother well and when you get satisfied with him and his family, his
job, his akhlaq etc, make the showing of your girl to the prospect
brother or his family last step of
fixing the marriage contract. In various societies finalizing a marriage
revolves around how a sister looks. Prospect brother’s family first
wants to see the sister, if she looks good, sister’s wali goes to
inquire about brother’s background. It is a wrong attempt. In maximum
cases girl is being shown to non-mehrams several times and rejected due
to minor things, this lowers the self dignity and confidence of a Muslim
girl.
Right conduct:
Find a good brother, inquire his
background, if you get satisfied with him, organize a meeting with him
and his family and the sister and her family. Conclusion, make the
showing of the sister last step, too many exposure to unknown
non-mehrams and rejections will be a great loss for a Muslimah and
Muslim society.
